Become more aware of your Thoughts and
Create positive effects by reinforcing them with Action!

At times we all delve into the realm of negative thoughts, be it about ourselves (especially our body’s), our partners or family members, our life, our jobs, our work colleagues or acquaintances. It’s important to monitor what we are thinking and maintain positive thoughts. We have no neutral thoughts, and each thought has a creative effect in our life, so it might as well be positive!

If you do slip into the realm of negative thoughts, stop and cancel the effects by instantly replacing it with a positive thought. So if you have a thought like,
“I have fat legs.” Immediately upon realising what you are thinking, say to yourself; “Stop, I now cancel that thought by replacing it with, I have strong legs that take me where I need to go.” Then as added assurance repeat the positive thought three to five times: “I have strong legs that take me where I need to go.” (Please read the ‘Spring Updates’ below ;o). To increase the creative effects of your thought, get up and go somewhere that you need to go, positively reinforcing the idea with action!

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Spring Updates:

30th September 2006

When I first wrote the ‘Create Awareness - Watch Your Thoughts’ above and my husband read through it to proof and give me comments, he was honest in saying that he thought my statement “I have strong legs that take me where I need to go” - was bordering on the ‘weak’ *Smile* and that the idea needed more thought and depth. I actually agreed with him and decided I needed to rewrite the insert after reading it again. However, my schedule became even more hectic and I completely forgot the rewrite. Now, a year later I realised that I needed to carefully consider what I had written, as I have thought about this particular piece of writing often in the past 12 months.

I know myself well enough to realise that sometimes when I write something, especially just spontaneously off the top of my head (so to speak ;o), that it’s my subconscious calling attention to a deeper underlying issue. So, during the Winter months when I take time to reflect, I considered the ‘thought’ examples that I had used: “I have fat legs.” and “I have strong legs that take me where I need to go.” and realised that there was a deeper issue I wanted to write about.

When I was 11 years old, I was relatively tall for my age, however within the following years I grew like a ‘bean plant’ in the words of some of my family members *Grin* - so that by the time my thirteenth birthday arrived, I was 5’ 7 and half inches, and one of the tallest girls in my school. Having, a younger (by four years) and much shorter brother, I became the butt of constant teasing which for the most part I ignored. However, if anyone knows what it’s like to have a younger brother you will understand what I mean when I say he was tenacious as well as relentless in his teasing comments, and my mothers solution to the situation when I lamented his constant barrage was to ‘simply ignore him.’

Comments like ‘You have thunder thighs’ and ‘Look at those tree trunks’ are just a couple of the more gracious teasing remarks that my brother used. My mother’s comments that I should watch my weight and maybe I should diet, failed to help the situation, and I did become self-conscious about how my legs looked.

A year later when I had a bicycle accident and scraped the side of my face, damaging my shoulder by losing most of the tissue and skin, and scraping all the skin off my right thigh, the self-consciousness I felt about my body grew to such an extent that the perception I had about my body and self-image was completely out of proportion to reality. - [ Read More ]

When you negatively focus on a particularly part of your body, the mental picture you develop can become distorted and out of proportion without relation to the rest of your body. With years of teasing remarks from my brother and his friends, plus my mothers non-to-gentle comments about my increased weight, and then the accident that I had, the ‘mental’ picture I developed of my body and self-image was completely unrelated to how I actually looked, and became skewed and distorted.

Many years later, I decided to heal the ‘love-hate’ relationship that I had developed with my body, and I discovered and enjoyed an amazing transformation in body, mind and spirit. For the first time in a long time, I saw my body in wholeness - rather than just legs, or just a face.... or even just a battered and scarred shoulder, I looked at myself as a whole body and complete being. When I greet the reflection of myself in the mirror, I say ‘Good Morning, Mands I Love You!’ [ Read More ] - the whole of me, not just my body, or just my mind, or even just my heart and soul.... All Of Me!

When you do have a negative thought about your body like - ‘I have fat legs!’ or ‘I have such a big bum.’ or ‘My stomach is rolling over to meet my knees,’ rather than ignoring these negative thoughts - make a note of them in your diary, journal or a notebook, then just leave it be for a while. Try and actively change your negative thoughts to positive ones - Even “I have strong legs that take me where I need to go” *Grin* or, look in a mirror and greet yourself with ‘Good Morning, I Love You!’ - be proactive in seeing yourself as a “whole body and complete being” - rather than focusing on only aspects of yourself in isolation to the rest of your body and self. Practice positive thoughts and affirmations all the time, repeating them whenever you can.

When you do have some time for reflection, then consider a single negative thought that you made a note of in your diary, and ask yourself Why? - with your attention and focus being on solution, resolution and healing. Write your questions and just write whatever words, thoughts, images and ideas come to mind.... it may take sometime, however the deeper underlying reasons for your negative thought will emerge and that is when you can start resolving how you feel about your body and Why?

As you release the negative thoughts through realising the reasons why and replacing them with positive thoughts, you may also find it much easier to release the emotional baggage you have carried with these negative thoughts and discover healing.

At the time of my healing, I even asked my brother why he had teased me so relentlessly about my legs, and asked him if he realised how much his comments had hurt me? He was actually mortified at realising that I had even noticed his comments, as I had ignored him so much, and he shared how jealous he had been of how many friends I had and how popular he thought I was, when he had just a single friend at boarding school, and no friends in the small town where we lived, and was really only trying to get my attention. The more my brother teased me, the more I ignored him, the more he teased me to get my attention. During our discussions as adults, my brother confessed that he thought I had a great body, something his school friends often confirmed, and the focus of his teasing was to get my attention and actually had nothing to do with how I looked. I thought his teasing comments were truly what he felt, and never even considered that he just wanted my attention because he was lonely and wanted to spend more time with my friends and I ....and that my ignoring him just added fuel to the fire .....relationships are complicated. Thankfully that part of my life experience was resolved and healed with some sharing and laughter.

When I actually looked at my body in perspective, I realised that I have gorgeous long, slender legs (my hubby confirms this regularly as he loves my long legs ;o).... and that my body works as a whole. *Grin*.

Life and experiences are a dichotomy, for every negative thought you have there is an opportunity to learn and heal..... from every lesson there is a chance to grow and evolve.... through healing and growing there is the magical transformation to manifesting your Body Power, realising unlimited Mental Energy and connecting to your Spiritual Essence!