Relating-ship

Move forward this week - Its an exhilarating experience!!!
-- Author Unknown

I read an article the other day offering “Relating-ship workshops” – what an interesting heading, I thought.  It was all about finding out more about yourself and about what makes you behave the way you do in a relationship. It’s about being the captain of your ship, handling your crew and navigating through stormy seas and finding your way without a map of the ocean.

I found this a fun topic to discuss in my own mind, and started a mind-dream of my own Relating-ship. (Especially after reading the [ Autum newsletter ] that Mands sent out and the “Freedom” questions!)

I was captain-ME, aboard the good ship “MY LIFE”, navigating the waters of “MY FUTURE” but most important, exploring the reefs of the relationship with “MY SELF!”
I had to ask myself the following questions to begin my journey….

• The beating drums of the pace-keeper of my crew – which drum beat am I paddling to keep pace with?
• Was I just using the fast forward button on my calendar of life? Or was I using the pause button to enjoy the moment?
• Had I lost my childlike focus on fun? And doing things because I wanted to and not because I had to?
• Did I try and pressure myself to have a Superwoman status? Or has this become the norm in our new society – the woman must work and take care of her family?

As I sat and pondered my life’s journey and where it had started to where I was now – thinking about my passengers (my kids and my family); my baggage in the hold (my fears, my heartbreak, my emotional baggage); my crew (my body, mind and spirit), was I going to lift my anchor (my feelings of inadequacy) and use this new freedom of thought to move into un-chartered waters of my future, to navigate shallow reefs of uncertainty, and the deep seas of happiness? Was I going to sail on in calm sunny skies or encounter stormy weather along the way?

I realised that if the water was too calm, I would not experience all the joys and sorrows that one needs to really live and love the way we do and that cloudy horizons are always around us.  We have to use our inner strength as our guide and navigate our way through the uncertain times to sail free of the storms and to rest and repair in a safe harbour when it becomes necessary.

It matters not how straight the gate,
How charged with punishment the scroll;
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
(James Allen from the book “Master of Destiny”)

So today, as I charter the narrow channels of my own self imposed limitations, I am going to rely on setting a course to everywhere and to wherever my ship will take me – through calm or stormy seas – I will enjoy the ride, and take in the beauty that is all around, taking comfort in the fact that my passengers are there to support me and that I will not abandon ship, no matter what!

My own opinion of ME is all that matters
All things I seek are now seeking me…

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Bevskins xxx !!!

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