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Learn to say No and reap the benefits in the Now! Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wonder if you will have time to go to the loo ;o)...... because you have so much to do.... and you have no idea how you got there in the first place? I’ve found myself in that place plenty of times. Mainly, because I still struggle to say ‘No’ to anyone who asks me to do something. After working 27 days in December, at my bosses request, including Christmas Day and all the other public holidays, I found myself struggling to catchup with my chores and other work responsibilities, and felt overwhelmed by all I had to do in January. Of course, being paid extra, overtime and holiday rates was an added incentive and balanced the long hours of work required. Saying ‘No’ to those yummy delicious treats you love, or even indulging in moderation can be just as difficult. Saying ‘No’ to all those January sales, special offers and deals of the decade even if you have vowed to diminish and clear your debt can be almost impossible and sometimes indulgence and overindulgence is overlooked by vows of promising to deal with the consequences ‘tomorrow’ or ‘next week’, or better yet ‘next month’ or ‘next year’! Saying “No” ..... to anyone was almost impossible for me to do, and it was my young daughter who taught me the valuable lesson of saying ‘No’ to unreasonable demands and unrealistic expectations by teaching me to say ‘YES’ to myself, my values, my dreams and saying ‘YES’ to the things that are important and right for me! My daughter explained in simple innocence that it seemed to her, that I could easily say ‘Yes’ to my boss even when he was being unreasonable with the hours and amount of days he expected me to work, and yet she felt I could easily say ‘No’ to her when she just wanted to spend a few hours doing something fun with me. Her innocent outburst made me realise that the balance between saying No and Yes, is so important.... to get the right balance for yourself in your life in any present moment. It’s really difficult to say No unless you have a clear picture of what you are saying Yes to! Once I found clarity on what was important for me in the present moment, it was much easier to find the balance I needed. So, whilst it was OK to work longer hours and extra days in December, I needed to restore the balance in my life by working more reasonable hours in January, by saying ‘No’ to working overtime and extra days, and saying ‘Yes’ to myself and my family, allowing me to catch up with my chores, my work and writing for WhyWeight and spending time with my family, especially my daughter.... So essentially by saying ‘No’ to just one request - working overtime and extra days, allowed me to say ‘Yes’ to a whole lot of priorities in my life! I said ‘Yes’ - to working my normal hours and days, spending time with my family, doing my chores, working on the website and replying to my email. If you want to look at it from another perspective, saying ‘No’ to the temptingly delicious chocolate cake, means you can say ‘Yes’ to a healthier alternative, less calories, trimmer body, less exercise and more time! Saying ‘No’ to buying that fabulous outfit on special, or the Hi-fi system reduced by 10% on sale by maxing out your credit card, means saying ‘Yes’ to less debt, more ready cash or savings, less stress and pressure, more choices to buy what you really want to and enjoy it even more because it’s paid for! “Nothing is there to come, and nothing past, Sometimes we say ‘Yes’ to peoples requests, that tempting treat, or overindulgent item that we really struggle to afford unless we use credit, (even when we really want to say ‘No’ and know we should) so we can feel good about ourselves right now, and then we tend to regret it for long days and weeks to come while we live with the consequences. Learning to say ‘No’ at the right moment to certain requests and treats allows us the freedom to say ‘Yes’ to all the important things in our lives, and it allows us the choice to change our minds if we want to! Just learning to say ‘No’ when you want to, and saying ‘Yes’ when you mean it, helps keep balance in your life right NOW! © 2001 to 2007 Mands WhyWeight - All Rights Reserved |
